it's finally DONE!!!

Alhamdulillah.... look @ my ticker status up there... yup! i've finally submitted it!!!

setelah berpenat lelah sepanjang 3++ years... esp these past few months, weeks & days... lack of sleep...being stressful most of the time... akhirnya it's done!

leganya rasa di hati... sekarang tak perlu nak stress2 lagi (i think..) at least not till the VIVA la kan hehe... usaha sudah.. sekarang tawakal & berdoala semoga para examiners tu dilembutkan hati membaca hasil nukilan fikiran nonie yg bertahun2 tu... AMIN! it might not the best piece... but it was the best that i can come out with... & mind u, it was not an easy task...

apapun, skrang masa untuk bergumbira huhuhu...

currently in Desaru celebrating my submission, the best paper award that i received last week (unexpected one!) + father's day celebration for cik abg!

so, Happy Father's day cik abg.. thanx for being a great dad for our kids & of course a great husband for me... huhuh... thanx for your patience & understanding throughout the battle that i went through...(cewah battle la sangat..) hope u're enjoying our short vacation ni.. :)

My Parenting Style

We've analyzed three key aspects of your parenting style.

When it comes to Shaping Their Character You're :
Specific - Whether you're an earth mother or a PTA president (or both!), you're very concerned with setting specific expectations for your kids' behavior. You do this both by telling them what to do and acting as a role model, and, in general, you expect them to follow your careful guidance. As a parent, you think you should be very actively involved in fostering your children's growth, which includes determining what activities they should engage in – sports, tutoring, music, chores, art, yoga, whatever. When it comes to everything from family meals to manners and morals, you know what's best.

When it comes to Making the Rules You're :
Authoritative - When it comes to setting rules and expectations with your kids, you're the grownup and you know what's best. And since this is the case, it's not really necessary to always explain the logic or rationale behind your rules and expectations. you're also scrupulously fair: you do your best to apply your standards equally to each child. Parents who take this approach believe that it's important for parents to make decisions for their kids and that, generally, rules and expectations shouldn't be open to discussion.

When it comes to Enforcing Discipline You're :
Firm but Fair - You're firm, but fair. In general, you take an assertive approach to discipline. You think it's best, since being direct lets kids know what's expected of them. At the same time, parents like you indicated that children should be allowed some room to be free and explore; you're happy for your kids to experiment and take chances (within reason), as long as they respect and obey their parents. There's no purpose served by being overly strict.

take the test here

Ba Alif Ba Ya = Khinzir!

Isu selsema babi yang melanda semenjak 2 menjak ni mengingatkan nonie pada perbualan nonie dengan seorang sahabat yang agak baikla gak masa study kat melbourne dulu... Linda nama dia, Cina Indonesia... memang seorang Kristian yang sangat devoted... setiap ahad attend church... nonie selalu la lepak masa lunch break dengan dia makan bekal masing2... kadang2 share la gak, tapi selalunya dia makan bekal nonie, tapi nonie selalu politely rejected her offer to share hers since dia selalu bawak bekal sandwich ba alif ba ya... jadik ada satu masa ni dia pun tanya la apsal Islam haramkan binatang kaki pendek ni... hmmm mencabarla gak nak jawab soklan tu, sebab nonie pun bukanla org yang arif sangat nak bagi explanation bab2 agama ni kan... kang takut bagi silap explanation plak... nak convince kan derang ngan jawapan kita kalau betul sekali pun satu hal gak.... so, nonie just explained yg 1) memang dalam Quran kata tak boleh makan & 2) scholar Islam ada yang pernah test & jumpa kuman yang tak boleh mati dalam daging babi tu walaupun dah di masak... utk 1st explanation tu dia paham & maklumla... cuma utk 2nd explanation tu of course dia macam tak caya & maybe a bit offended la sbb dengan kata lain macam nonie nak cakap dia makan bende yg berkuman la kan... takde niat pun... tapi tu jerla explanation terbaik nonie boleh bagi pada masa tu walaupun sebenarnya nonie pun tak pasti samada betul ke tak cara nonie explain tu...

bila timbul isu selsema babi ni, harap2 dia ingatla apa yang nonie explain ni & knock some sense into her...

here is one interesting story about a conversation between a muslim & non-muslim about Halal & Haram... not sure of its real source coz i also got it from my fb, but found it interesting enough to be shared...

it's just that for some non-Muslim who are still skeptical about this issue still think this conversation is still not convincing enough & there's nothing scientific about it.... whatever... we'll just leave them to that....

Why PIG is Haraam?

Bob: Tell me why is it that a Muslim is very particular about the words Halaal and Haraam; what do they mean?

BM: That which is permissible is termed Halaal and that which is not permissible is termed Haraam and it is the Quran which draws the distinction between the two.

Bob: Can you give me an example?

BM: Yes, Islam has prohibited blood of any type. You will agree that a chemical analysis of blood shows that it contains an abundance of uric acid, a chemical substance which can be injurious to human health.

Bob: You're right about the toxic nature of uric acid, in the human
being it is excreted as a waste product and in fact we are told that 98% of the body's uric acid is extracted from the blood by the kidneys and removed through urination.

BM: Now I think that you'll appreciate the special prescribed method of animal slaughter in Islam.

Bob: What do you mean?

BM: You see, the wielder of the knife, whilst taking the name
of the 'Almighty', makes an incision through the jugular veins, leaving all other veins and organs intact.

Bob: I see, this causes the death of the animal by a total loss of blood from the body, rather than an injury to any vital organ.

BM: Yes, were the organs, example the heart, the liver, or the brain crippled or damaged, the animal could die immediately and its blood would congeal in its veins and would eventually permeate the flesh. This implies that the animal flesh would be permeated and contaminated with uric acid and therefore very poisonous; only today did our dieticians realize such a thing.

Bob: Again, while on the topic of food; Why do Muslims condemn the eating of pork or ham or any foods related to pigs or swine

BM: Actually, apart from the Quran prohibiting the consumption of
pork, bacon (pig flesh); in fact the Bible too in Leviticus Chapter 11: Verse 8, regarding swine it says, 'of their flesh (of the swine, another name for pig) shall you not eat, and of their carcass you shall not touch; they are unclean to you.' Further, did you know that a pig cannot be slaughtered at the neck for it does not have a neck; that is according to its natural anatomy. A Muslim reasons that if the pig was to be slaughtered and fit for human consumption the Creator would have provided it with a neck. Nonetheless, all that aside, I am sure you are well informed about the harmful effects of the consumption of pork, in any form, be it pork chops, ham, bacon.

Bob: The medical science finds that there is a risk for various diseases the pig is found to be a host for many parasites and potential diseases.


BM: Yes, even apart from that, as we talked about uric acid content in the blood, it is >>important to note that the pig 's biochemistry excretes only 2% of its total uric acid content, the remaining 98% remains as an integral part of the body. Plus as everyone knows that swine(pig) eats its own excretion, which means that of all the uric acid and the other waste products excreted, most of it goes back inside again.

Please forward to others............it may answer some of their questions specially when the children ask.

going back....

OK 1st round done... draft sumer chapters dah settle tgh tunggu feedback from SVs on the chapters that I've submitted... meanwhile cleaning up the chapters that they've commented... insyaAllah sempatla kot settle semuanya before the submission due date... semoga semuanya berjalan lancar... AMIN!

smalam call HR tanya pasal claim conference last year + bila nak report duty... kot2 la wpun submit awal dari tarikh abis CB boleh nak sambung je cuti sampai the allocated date... hmmm dedua inquiries pun jawapan dia tak sure... tapi pasal CB tu most prob kena report duty gakla as soon as after the submission... kalau nak extend pun kena tulis surat dengan alasan kena prepare untuk jenel ke, project apa2 ke... hmmm yg ni kena discuss ngan my beloved SV gakla sbb kalau ikutkan mmg ada lagi keje ngan project dia which related to my framework... kot2 la dia blh tulis surat recommendation ke hape... tunggu discuss masa balik JB nanti...

citer pasal balik JB plannya akan balik in another 1 week time... huh lama sungguh meninggalkan bumi selatan & my home sweet home tu... adala kira2 nak dekat 1/2 tahun... selama tu la gak kesian cik abg jadik weekends husband je... perasaan utk kembali ke sana ni bercampur baur... tingat lagi last time lepas berpantang bersalinkan afifah, meleleh air mata gakla dalam kete meninggalkan umah mak ni... masa tu dok 2 bulan je... ini stay sini nak dekat 6 bulan, lagila terasa... kesian tinggalkan mak ngan abah berdua je kat sini... dahla zairi pun dah dok hostel, sure derang sunyi nanti... kalau tak, tiap2 hari riuh rendah dengan suara si kakak membebel2, si kecik merengek2 & suara nonie marah2kan si kakak... silap2 bila bosan2 mak ngan abah turut ke JB la nanti kot... xpela biarla derang berehat plak... dah penat agaknya dgn kerenah cucu2... bagi chance derang spend masa berdua plak...

esok nak balik AS plak... nak bawak anak dara kecik tu balik kg ayah dia buat pertama kalinya...

my Ameda...

received my ameda lacteline last week... thanx to Richard Cassidy beli online jer dari store derang... service sangat bagus, cepat betul jawab my email inquiries murah pun murah walaupun termasuk postage compared dari beli kat online store kat Malaysia... beza nak dekat RM300 tu... siap ada extra spare parts lagi dia bagi... tu yang bagus...

okla gak pakai pump ni... nak compare ngan pump canggih2 yg lain macam S3 @ FS tatau la plak kan sebab tak pernah guna yg lain tu... tapi kalau nak compare ngan pegion manual ku yg dah kaput tu & pureen letrik yg menyakitkan tu mestila yg ni lagi superb... mmg rasa cam baby's suckling la.... production wise takdela cam sangat banyak berbanding sebelum pakai pump ni... kalau dulu ngan manual pum/tangan dapat 2 oz per session, dgn pum baru ni bertambahla 1 oz jadik 3 oz... memang nonie bukan jenis banyak susu yg melimpah ruah... cukupla utk asyfa... dah mula buat stock.. dah mula nak penuh la freezer mak kat umah ni hehe... adala lebih kurang 40oz... nak amik gambar tapi dah kena warn dengan one of my male friend jangan post gambar ebm sebab dia rasa uncomfortable tengok bila one of his other friend post gambar ebm dia penuh sefreezer... tgh pk cara paling bagus nak transport balik jb nanti... so, tgh survey2 cooler bag yg sesoai untuk bawak bekerja gak nanti...

tapi of course yg best dengan pump ni dah takdela nak lenguh tengkuk @ tangan nak mengepam... lepak je... kadang2 sampai nak tertido2 pun ada hehe... cuma masih suka finish up manually pakai tangan... lagi rasa puas & make sure susu betul2 habis diperah...

asyfa @ around 50 days berkat susu ibu pipi makin gembim!

BZ weeks

lama la gak ek tak update (2 minggu lebih je takdela lama mana pun)...

BZ la... bz apa? hmmm bz menstresskan diri... mengadap chapters yg makin nak abis makin dapat mental block nak menulisnya... bz melayan kerenah anak dara berdua... tiap2 hari terjerit2 kat si kakak yg tak abis2 nak mengacau adiknya... lepuk la, cucukla, cium & peluk terlebih2la... kita ni pun, bila jeritan pun dah tak di dengar, apa lagi tangan pulak la yang 'bercakap'... cepat tangan dia melepuk si adik, cepat gakla tangan nonie membalasnya... hehla.. si adik plak, ada masa2 jadik very clingy... dah kenyang menyusu pun (sebab dah sendawa banyak kali) dok gak nak kita pegang & melekap... huhu... malam2 pun standardla, dah lama tak merasa tidur yg lena... kadang2 bila dok tekun memerah otak nak menaip ayat in one of the chapters, rengekan si kakak & adik yg mintakan perhatian terpaksa nonie abaikan sekejap... kesianla anak2 mak...terasa cam a very bad mommy la... mana tak bertambah stress

bz gak mengorganize majlis akikah untuk 3 puteri... my Asyfa & my cousins punya princess... alhamdulillah majlis berjalan lancar walaupun hari tu hujan selebat2nya dengan angin kuat cam ribut... nasib baik khemah tak tercabut...

kambing asyfa

3 dara dengan 3 mak dara hehe...

cuma yg tak bestnya sket ada plak pahat2 yg berbunyi lepas majlis tu.. kami organizer OK je.. cuma ada sedara & org2 yg datang la yg sibuk2 sket sebab kebetulan masa kenduri tu salah sorang cousin nonie menjemput boss & kawan2 office dia yg non-muslim... hmmm sebenarnya derang ni menjemput diri sendiri bila dapat tahu cousin nonie ni ambil cuti utk majlis tu... tak bagi datang cam tak syok plak... nonie & family pernah dengar ceramah agama kata tak haram pun sebenarnya bagi makan daging akikah kepada non-muslim... so takdela kisah sangat bila dapat tau derang ni nak datang, tapi boleh agakla akan ada org2 yg berkata... kesal la gak bila derang ni senang2 menjatuhkan hukum... tapi tula, nak salahkan derang 100% pun tak boleh, sebab memang ada pendapat yg kata haram... nonie pun sebelum dengar ceramah tu pun ingat camtu... ntahla nonie ni pun bukanla arif agama sangat...

Bukan Islam boleh makan akikah

SOALAN:
Baru-baru ini saya mengadakan majlis akikah untuk anak lelaki saya yang baru saja dilahirkan. Mengikut hukum anak lelaki harus korbankan dua ekor kambing, jadi saya telah pun menunaikannya. Ketika majlis ini berlangsung ada juga tetamu bangsa Cina yang hadir.

Adakah sah akikah saya yang dimakan oleh tetamu bangsa Cina itu?

JAWAPAN:

Tiada tegahan dalam mana-mana nas secara qatie (muktamad) sama ada di dalam al-Quran mahupun hadis-hadis Rasulullah SAW yang sahih yang boleh difahami bahawa orang bukan Islam tidak boleh memakan daging akikah.

Selagi mana tiada nas yang secara sorih (terang) yang menegah maka selagi itulah perkara itu dilihat suatu yang tidak mutlak dari hukumnya. Apa yang perlu difahami di sini ialah hukum melaksanakan akikah itu sendiri.

Di samping itu daging akikah yang dimasak dengan sedikit rasa manis itu diharapkan agar perangai dan budi pekerti anak tersebut akan menjadi elok dan baik. (Al-Majmu’: 8/322)

Pengertian akikah menurut syarak

Akikah dalam pengertian syarak ialah binatang ternakan yang berkaki empat (binatang an’am) yang disembelih ketika hendak mencukur rambut kepala anak yang baru dilahirkan, sama ada disembelih pada hari ketujuh atau selepasnya.

Falsafah tuntutan menunaikan akikah adalah sebagai tanda kesyukuran seseorang setelah mendapat anugerah cahaya mata yang dikurniakan oleh Allah SWT.

Justeru ia lebih baik di kongsi sesama Islam. Ini kerana ia juga seumpama satu peringatan kepada yang lain untuk berakikah juga untuk anak mereka (jika belum). Bagi bukan Islam, tiada peruntukan akikah.

Hukum melakukan akikah itu adalah sunat muakkad, iaitu sunat yang sangat digalakkan dalam syarak. Perkara ini bukan sekadar nas semata-mata malahan boleh dilihat sebagaimana perbuatan Rasulullah SAW ketika baginda mengakikahkan cucundanya Hasan dan Husain r.a.

Ia bukanlah perkara yang wajib dilakukan kerana hal ini pernah ditanyakan kepada Rasulullah, lalu baginda bersabda yang maksudnya: “Allah tidak menyukai kedurhakaan, seolah-olah Baginda tidak suka menyebut nama itu (akikah). Baginda bersabda: “Barang siapa yang dikurniakan baginya anak, lalu dia ingin menyembelihkan untuk anaknya maka sembelihlah untuk anak lelaki dua ekor kambing yang sama keadaannya dan bagi anak perempuan seekor kambing”. (riwayat Abu Daud)

Maksud hadis daripada perkataan (suka atau ingin menyembelihkan untuk anaknya) itu menunjukkan tidak wajib melakukan akikah, melainkan jika akikah itu dinazarkan baharulah ia dipanggil akikah wajib.

Dalam hadis yang lain, sabda Rasulullah SAW: “Anak-anak tergadai (terikat) dengan akikahnya, disembelih (akikah) untuknya pada hari ketujuh (kelahirannya) dan diberi namanya serta dicukur rambutnya”. (riwayat at-Tirmidzi)

Terdapat dua pendapat dalam menghuraikan maksud hadis “anak tergadai dengan akikahnya” di sini.

Pendapat pertama mengatakan bahawa jika tidak diakikahkan, anak itu akan terbantut atau terhalang pertumbuhannya, tidak seperti anak-anak lain yang diakikahkan.

Pendapat kedua

Pendapat kedua mengatakan bahawa maksudnya ialah anak itu tidak akan memberi syafaat kepada kedua ibu bapanya pada hari kiamat kelak jika dia tidak diakikahkan. Pendapat kedua ini adalah pendapat Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal, dan pendapat ini dilihat pendapat yang lebih utama. (Mughni al-Muhtaj: 4/369)

Akikah disebut dalam hadis yang bermaksud: Bersama bayi yang lahir itu akikah, maka kerana itu mengalirkanlah darah (sembelihan) untuknya, dan jauhkan baginya segala kesakitan (godaan syaitan). (riwayat Bukhari)

Ini bermakna: “Setiap anak perlu dipajakkan (terhutang) dengan akikah, disembelih untuknya pada hari ketujuh umurnya, dan diberi nama dan dicukur rambut kepalanya”. (riwayat Ashabus Sunan)

Akikah itu pula dari sudut bahasanya adalah tolakan iaitu tolakan dari gangguan dan godaan syaitan.

Adapun persoalan mengenai memberi makan atau dimakan daging akikah oleh bukan Islam tidak mencacatkan amalan akikah. Biarpun daging akikah itu dimakan oleh bukan Islam, akikah itu tetap sah dan tidak perlu diulangi.

Sebenarnya perbuatan kita melabelkan hidangan dengan ayat hidangan untuk orang Islam sahaja adalah tidak wajar. Seolah-olah kita memperkecilkan tetamu yang datang ke majlis keraian kita dengan tidak mengizin mereka menjamah apa yang dihidangkan oleh tuan rumah. Sedangkan bukan Islam muslim boleh memakan daging akikah.

Setiap ibu bapa atau ahli keluarga apabila mengadakan majlis tersebut mereka mengharapkan doa yang ikhlas daripada sanak saudara dan sahabat andai atau jiran tetangga yang datang bertandang ke majlis itu.

Jika yang diundang itu bukan Islam sekurang-kurang kita dapat menghampiri mereka dan memahamkan bahawa Islam tidak menghalang pergaulan dan penglibatan bukan Islam dalam majlis yang diadakan oleh orang Islam.

Ini sekurang-kurangnya memberi peluang kepada kenalan kita yang bukan Islam mengenal amalan yang terkandung dalam agama yang suci ini.

Happy 32nd Birthday dear....

Tag of His Hubbiness

Wasn’t tagged by anyone… but found this in one of my bloglist… find it interesting to do it since today is his birthday & also to test how much I know about him after 5 years of marriage…huhu

Rules:
Here’s a chance to see how well you really know your husband/boyfriend/lover.Cut, paste and fill in the answers, then shoot, you know what to do. The real challenge is to send it to your husband/boyfriend/lover to see how right you really are.

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1. He’s sitting in front of the TV, what is on the screen?
-Dog Fight or any of similar programs (related to fighter jets) on History Channel
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2. You’re out to eat; what kind of dressing does he get on his salad?
-sambal belacan… perut melayu beb… dressing2 omputih ni tak main…
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3. What’s one food he doesn’t like?
- Spaghetti… (see no.2)
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4. You go out to eat and have a drink. What does he order?
- the O ais
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5. Where did he go to high school?
- Sains Machang
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6. What size shoes does he wear?
- err 7 ke 8 ek… varies la depends on the type of shoes… ye ke.. hehe
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7. If he was to collect anything, what would it be?
- he seems to be collecting everything which sometimes I secretly throw away…huhu
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8. What is his favorite type of sandwich?
- sardines & eggs
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9. What would this person eat every day if he could?
- cili api & kicap (as cicah)
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10. What is his favorite cereal?
- any kind that I bought
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11. What would he never wear?
- something striking, flowery or too colorful…
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12. What is his favorite sports team?
- He’s not into sport that much… kalau ada pun, team bola kedah la kot.. hehe
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13. Who did he vote for?
- Undi adalah rahsia! But of course I know… tiada rahsia antara kami…cewah!
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14. Who is his best friend?
- Panjang
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15. What is something you do that he wishes you wouldn’t do?
- keep things to myself… esp when I’m upset…
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16. What is his heritage?
- Malay Kedah mai…
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17. What is his favourite colour?
- I think it’s Blue
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18. What is his habit?
- sleeps a lot…
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19. What is he proud of?
- me (owh, sgt suka masuk lif tekan sendiri ni hehe) & of course his daughters
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20. Lastly, do you think he will read this?

- maybe..

a lil surprise for him last night... berjaya 'smuggle' besday present dlm kotak baju mengandung yg nonie suruh hantar balik JB huhu... since tak dapat nak personally give it to him on the day, so, malam tadi called him past midnight, made a wish & asked him to pick the present from the box.... huhu... nothing much... just a small present & this card.... 'selamat' lipstick akak buat kerastangan ni tau... huhu.. but i'm glad he really loves it :)